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Sunday, September 5, 2010

When Worlds Collide

When I first started this blog, I thought about putting a link to it on my Facebook page.

Actually, I did (hidden in my profile)...but only for about 12 hours.

Then I chickened out and took it off again.

At the time, the blog was brand new and I wanted to see what I could do with it on my own.  And if I tanked royally (hey, it was a possibility!) I certainly didn't want everyone I knew to witness it.

But here I am five months later and I feel like I've hit my blogging stride.  I'm just under 200 followers (holy moly how did THAT happen?), and  think I'm comfortable enough now to maybe let my two worlds collide, just a little.

While the blog isn't a secret--all they have to do is Google me and they'll find me in 2 seconds flat--I am considering giving them the linkage to find the blog.  Obviously once I do, there's no going back.  So I'm taking an informal poll.

Tell me:

1. Do your friends & family know about your blog?
2. If yes, who? how many?
3. When did you 'let' them in?
4. Do you ever wish you hadn't invited them?
5. If you do NOT have any friends/family reading your blog, why not?

Thanks for your time, I really appreciate it! 


Jessica Carmen Bell said...

They ALL know about it. And to be honest, the only people who care are a cousin who I hardly speak to, and my half-siter. My parents don't look at it, as far as I know, and not one other person in my family can be bothered reading. Hmmm, guess I'm the only writer in the family ...

Words A Day said...

Hi, I came over from karens blog! I decided not to link my posts and facebook, though I have a facebook like on my blog. I'd like to keep them seperate, I'n not sure why but maybe its because facebook world isnt as nice as blog world! Nice to meet you!

Clarissa Draper said...

1. Do your friends & family know about your blog? Only my husband and son. I don't use my real name so even those who know me, won't know it's my blog. I keep my real name off the internet.
2. If yes, who? how many? (see #1)
3. When did you 'let' them in? Only recently did I tell my husband that I started blogging. I'm a real secretive person in real life. I'm much more open as my pen names.
4. Do you ever wish you hadn't invited them? I'm sure I would if they knew. People are different around you when they find out your a writer.
5. If you do NOT have any friends/family reading your blog, why not? (See #4)

Great questions. Hope my answers help. Have you tried using a pen name?

Clarissa Draper (not my real name)

Mason Canyon said...

I have two Facebooks (one for my blog and one that is more personal for family). I link my blog to my Facebook blog, but not my personal blog. My reason for that is because on my personal Facebook the majority of people I'm connected with there (high school friends and such) are constantly playing games, giving gifts, etc. and I'm not really into that. I rarely check on my personal Facebook page. I have some family that knows about my blog, but only one checks on it. Good luck.

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aspiring_x said...

ack! i hate facebook! the games! the meaningless status updates! blech!
some people know i blog, but the only ones i have ever shown it to are my hubby and kids, and a gal from work who also blogs. for me, my blog is about learning the writing thing, and people who aren't interested in that probalby wouldn't be interested in my blog. :)

Dianne K. Salerni said...

I post on my Facebook account every time I make a new blog post, and friends, family, and co-workers do read it. I haven't had any problems with this, although I do want to be careful about what I say regarding work. Teaching is a tricky profession, and while I rail about No Child Left Behind and the standardized testing craze quite a bit, I have to be careful that no criticism of my school is implied. We test because the law requires us to. I try to make this clear.

So far, I've got nothing but positive responses from co-workers who have read my blog.

Olivia J. Herrell said...

I link occasionally to FB and for a while, had my feed pulling directly in there. Which means, every time I put up a new blog post it would automatically pull in to Facebook.

Then, it was pointed out to me that everything posted to FB gives FB the right to use the content. Meaning, my publishing rights! I read FB's privacy statement and when I found this to be true, I stopped the automatic feed and went back and deleted all my blog content from FB.

I occasionally post links to my blog now, but no longer post any of the content.

That said, I have a lot of reader/lurkers. These are people who know me but don't write or blog and don't feel comfortable commenting. Most of these readers came from Facebook friends and family. But then, I'm pretty much an open book so I'm okay with them reading my stuff.

Great post, that rebel, Olivia

Dawn said...

Great post! I have two facebook profiles - one for my married life and one for my writing life. My married profile is a bit boring - my status updates are rarely negative, and my friend list is culled to mostly my husband's family. They are stuffy and honestly, not supportive of my writing. So in the beginning, I began posting my blog ONLY on my writing FB profile.

But then I wrote a blog post I secretly wanted them to read - involving some feelings I wanted them to know about. I know, I'm a coward.

So I began posting on both profiles. I know my MIL reads my blog now since I have the fancy map tracker thing but as for the rest of his family? Not so much. They don't "get" me or my writing :-) My family logs on in coughs and sputters - enough to remind me to watch my P's and Q's. I'm ok with that.

Lenny said...

hi miss vicki! all my family and friends and my doctors read my blog. mostly they dont comment except when they see me for real. i like it like that cause it gives me and them more stuff to talk about. i use my real name but my brother doesnt cause hes older. i dont do facebook or twitter and im not allowed to. but it ok cause for me just blog stuff takes lots of time and i got lots of things keepin me real busy so i dont got time for that chat stuff. but i gotta say i love blogging cause i meet cool people just like you. :)
...hugs from lenny

Raquel Byrnes said...

My friends and family do know and some of them read. My parents are not very techno-savy so they get the email version. Since its about writing a lot of them don't comment, but I do get questions or comments here and there by way of conversations.

Its kind of nice to know people who like to write and know something about the journey.

Congrats on your 200 followers!!

Edge of Your Seat Romance

Stephanie V said...

Great post with some interesting questions...I've just come from Karen's BBQ so I'm kinda full and ready to sit and chat.

My friends and family all know about the blog and most of them read it. They don't always comment, though. I have a personal Facebook page but I haven't linked to it. Like you, I'm a bit nervous about linking. Having read Olivia's comment, I'm feeling the fear might be justified.

So, I'm still on the fence. It's true that the Facebook atmosphere isn't as comfortable as blogging is. You meet such interesting people who ask good questions. Thanks for the sit down.

Kelly M. Olsen said... seems to be the same consensus across the board. I have a Facebook profile and each time I blog, I share the link on Facebook, Twitter, Google Buzz, and Google Reader. I know that 99.8% of my Facebook friends couldn't care less about my writing, and if any are reading, they don't comment. Again, I think it's some kind of universal thing that we writers will never be taken seriously until we become published and well known. Sad but true.

Nicole MacDonald said...

Everyone knows about my blog and I have facebook purely to lead people to my blog... this will all make much more sense when I hit 500 follower and can reveal my secret *grin*

Sharon K. Mayhew said...

My husband reads my blog, but never comments...he occassionally says something to me. I'm not sure what that means? I occassionally post a link from my fb wall to my blog, but most of my fb friends aren't interested. I have a feeling if I ever sold a book that might be different....My half sister reads my blog, but doesn't comment on it....

Jemi Fraser said...

I don't have a Facebook account (I know! I may be the last one on earth... but there's no more time!!!) so I don't worry about that part. :)

Only a very few people in my immediate family even know I write, and like Jessica none of them are really interested in reading or writing, so there's no interest there.

Jolene Perry said...

Unfortunately, the only one of my family who reads my writing blog is my mother in law - it's a bummer too because there's some GREAT stories there that I'll never be able to share...
The rest of my family reads my little family blog. Why would my mother go online if her grandkids weren't involved??
Oh, any BTW you're a blogging maniac. Seriously. You're hysterical.
Good Luck on this decision, remember that there are times when it will change what you do or do not post.