Yesterday I mentioned an embarrassing incident involving a splinter. So I thought I would keep the theme for another day.
While surfing through the blogosphere awhile back I happened upon a blog that was peppered with negativity. This particular blogger has a book out.
But I didn't leave the blog with the happy-for-you kind of feeling I normally get visiting author blogs. I take a lot of pleasure in hearing about the things that happen behind the scenes. Whether it's deciding on a cover, doing revisions, scheduling talks at book stores, whatever. I LOVE hearing about those things that until a few months ago I was blissfully ignorant of.
But this blogger/author made sarcastic semi-whiny remarks about the things that needed to be done to promote the book. I think it was meant to be tongue-in-cheek, but you know there's a lot of truth passed on through humor. I wrote a paper on it in school once. But that's not my point.
Imagine you are admiring a fine piece of (wood) furniture.
Maybe it's a desk or a dining room table or a bookcase. Heck, make it a piano, I don't care. All that matters is that it looks good to you.
The wood is exotic, expensive, and divine.
The craftsmanship is superb.
The style is fresh.
The piece takes your breath away.
You run your hand lovingly across the surface and a teeny tiny splinter embeds itself in your finger.
It's so small you can't see it.
But it HURTS.
You try to pluck it out, but it's so small you can't get a good grip on it.
Your finger swells and is annoyingly painful for several days. Might even get infected. (I'll stop the analogy before gangrene sets in. You can thank me later)
How do you feel about that piece of furniture now?
THAT is what negativity does to your blog, my friends.
I'm not saying you need to be all sunshine and roses 24/7. I'll accuse you of being a Stepford Blogger. Even I'M not happy all the time (pretty close though).
What I am saying is be careful about your complaints. This particular blogger would have been better off (in my opinion) doing a full-fledged post venting about having to do ABC and explaining why it was so difficult.
Everyone is allowed to vent or rant now and again.
But this wasn't a vent or a rant. It was a comment here, a remark there, a 'joke' in the profile. It was too much.
Instead, this blogger let the frustration seep through the cracks disguised (vaguely) as humor. The result? It poisoned the whole blog. They seemed unappreciative of their great fortune. HELLO? You have a BOOK out! I can find a thousand writers who would GLADLY trade spots with you.
Oh--and to answer the question before it gets asked, NO this was not your blog or anyone I normally follow, I'm not even really sure how I ended up there. I'm keeping their identity secret just to be nice.
I'm sure you've run across similar blogs. Without outing the guilty, what was the worst offense you've encountered?