If you have teenagers in your midst, you will identify with this bit.
At least, I HOPE you identify. I soothe my frazzled nerves by telling myself I'm not alone.
maybe I am!
I've been having an issue with my soon-to-be 15 year old. She's a good kid.
Smart, independent, strong-willed. These are all traits that will serve her well when she leaves the nest.
But are NOT any fun to deal with when she's facing off with a parental unit (ahem, that would be me).
When we write, our mantra is (say it with me now) "SHOW don't tell"
Around this house, we have a different mantra. It's "ASK don't tell"
That's right, my lovely, charming, five-foot something princess has a bad habit of not asking. She tells us, "I have plans Friday."
Oh? What are you doing? Who are you going with? Do you need a ride? Does anyone else need a ride?
Reasonable questions, right? ESPECIALLY since yours truly is usually the designated driver.
She gets quite put out when we ask questions. Sometimes I make her stay home just to illustrate that she should still be asking for permission, not announcing her plans.
But recently my child made my head spin in circles.
Circles I tell you.
During the summer she watches her brother and sister in the mornings until my husband gets home around noon. So, about 4 hours altogether. Not bad considering she doesn't do a whole heck of a lot else.
So, I'm sitting at work and get a call on my cell.
From a man.
NOT my husband.
And he was HOPPING mad.
Seems he caught his SON sneaking out of my house.
Oh yes. (or should that be oh no?)
Now, I trust my daughter, I do! She's a smart girl and she is usually honest with me when she DOES choose to speak. I believe her when she says nothing happened.
But I'm frustrated that she doesn't SEE what she did was wrong.
By the way, this was her boyfriend not that long ago. They broke up and he's seeing someone else. I believe they are only friends right now, but why are they upset by our parental suspicions? If they want to hang out as friends, I'm FINE with that...but why the sneaking around?
ARGH! I'm frustrated.
The only GOOD part (I suppose) from my angst is that someday it'll make great fodder for a book. I do have a YA in me.
Please, parents of teenagers, tell me I'm not alone here!